“Before trying ACT, I had done everything: CBT, Psychoanalysis, Coaching, etc. Nothing really helped, and I had decided, not to give therapy a chance anymore and to be better off listening to the free advice of my friends. Then, through Mervyn, I came in contact with ACT. Through the sessions, I have not only learnt, how to accept my uncomfortable thoughts and feelings as something natural (before I HATED them!), but also, how to live with them in a healthy way. For example: although my anxiety has not completely dissapeared, I have learned not to be completely ruled by it anymore. Mervyn has also helped me to look at my values (and also goals) in my life. I feel very empowered and I will keep on doing ACT, I guess for the rest of my life. It is just amazing! ACT is not a therapy, It’s a life journey. ” A
“…..then I came across ACT and on the night of the first session my anxiety levels came down significantly, so much so that I was able to drink four glasses of water in a two hour period (before I was so scared water would go down my windpipe that if I had one glass of water for the whole day I would consider myself lucky). The following day my anxiety went back to normal, but then I started accepting every emotion that each panic attack produced and within a month I had improved so much that I was off my tablets.A few months after that, I started doing things that I wasn’t really able to do before started ACT e.g. driving the car, going to shops.” T
My Mindfulness and Coaching training/experience:
I have been meditating for over twenty five years. I started my meditation journey when I was eighteen at University and became interested in Mindfulness meditation when I was thirty-five.
I have completed the Foundation Diploma in Mindfulness Based Cognitive Behaviour Therapies (which included modules on ACT,MBCT (Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy) and TIR (Trauma Incidence Reduction.). I have attended an advanced ACT course with Dr Russ Harris (Dr Harris is an International ACT trainer) and have also completed an intermediate level ACT courses with Martin Brooks (Martin is one of the leading ACT trainers in the UK).
I have the ITOL Diploma in Coaching Excellence and am also a fully qualified Science (Biology) teacher.
How stress becomes distressing and how anxiety can spiral into a panic attack:
How to learn more about ACT?
The resources section on this website has some free audio recordings of ACT topics like “What is acceptance?” “What is defusion?” “What is Mindfulness?” and how developing these skills helps us cope better with anxiety and panic attacks. You can also download free audio recordings to play when you get stressed. There are a number of self-help books listed on the resources page that can give you an excellent introduction to ACT.
If you want to receive some personal one-to-one ACT based coaching you are welcome to join my mindfulness coaching program. (This can also be done over Skype.)
The ACT-based Mindfulness Coaching program normally runs for eight weeks. In this weekly program you will learn step-by-step how to skilfully use the mindfulness, acceptance and diffusion techniques to :
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• reduce excessive stress and worry
• surf anxiety and panic waves without getting drowned by them
• handle painful thoughts and feelings more effectively
• loosen the hold negative thinking and self-judgements have on your life
• improve your work and build more satisfying relationships
• connect with your values and create a richer more fulfilling life
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If you are tired of living your life in the service of trying to control your feelings and thoughts, and you want to learn how Mindfulness,Defusion and Acceptance skills training can help transform your relationship to stress , then I would love to share these mindfulness skills with you.
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Feedback from more people who have tried ACT Mindfulness Exercises:
“If you are at a stage where you are truly ready and you’ve had enough of your anxiety and or panic attacks/ condition etc, then ACT could revolutionise your thinking and state of being if you embrace its principles. I think different people connect with different approaches to varying degrees and this one works for me so maybe it could work for you. It is definitely worth knowing about. ” N
“Although I came into the ACT sessions with the expectation of learning just a different approach, I definitely gained much more than what I initially thought. In a nutshell I think I now have a whole new perspective about life. If you are tired of trying to change yourself then ACT might work for you as it did for me.” V
“Mervyn and ACT allowed me to come out of what probably was the scariest period of my life. After having to deal with some very difficult issues I started having panic attacks. The more I was resisting and fighting my anxiety, the more I feared that another panic attack was coming, the more difficult the fight was becoming. I thought my life was falling apart. A scared my mind can become a very irrational mind very easily. High levels of adrenalin can easily turn every small perceived risk into an illusionary monster that your own mind starts feeding to grow bigger. The monster that my mind was feeding was that I was developing a condition of having regular panic attacks. This was leading to me losing my job, others having to take care of me and my life falling apart, I thought. I was terrified of becoming a total mess and even losing my mind.
What ACT with Mervyn’s guidance allowed me to do was to learn riding my anxiety instead of fighting it. I like comparing anxiety to a wild stallion. Both can get uncontrollable and really dangerous if one tries to fight them. What one has to do instead is to learn to become a whisperer to one’s anxiety, to become friends with it and to learn to ride it. Now that ACT has allowed me to become much better at these things, I am even enjoying riding my anxiety. When I get anxious now instead of getting unsettled by a thought of another panic attack coming I use my anxiety to become more concentrated, energized and even more courageous to do the things I want to do. What ACT allowed me to do was to reclaim my life from anxiety and to ride it like a wild stallion with a sense of excitement instead of dread. For all these things I am especially grateful to Mervyn, whose very compassionate, supportive and competent approach were crucial to finding a way to the other side of my fears.” E
Disclaimer:
This coaching program is to help learn Mindfulness skills to help reduce the impact of stressful feelings and thoughts. It is also about discovering ways to create a richer more rewarding life for ourselves and the people we care about. This coaching progarm is NOT suitable if you are currently experiencing SEVERE emotional or psychological distress .
Mindfulness is NOT a method to get rid of panic attacks or high anxiety it’s to help us BE with these feelings in a new way so that they have less impact on our lives. Sometimes the high anxiety or panic gets less thorough practising Mindfulness sometimes it does not.